Friday, 4 November 2011

Rejection: the big red button

It's 5h16 on a Saturday spring morning. Birds are chirping, guns are blazing (in some part of the cape flats), owls are doing their thing and Sbu's ''everything happens for a reason'' is banging on the radio while the rugby has gone to half time. I know the latter not by choice but because two slightly deaf people are playing the radio so loud Rihanna's probably drinking to that (see what I did there? By the by according to injustice facts, the weekend this single was released alcohol consumption in the US went up 8%, yep, 8,not judging).

Don't get me wrong, I like loud music as much as the next guy, but at 5 in the morning, it's just wrong. Not even the good kind like cheating with someone hotter wrong, noooo, this is like getting a girl to dump her fiance and then telling her you don't want anything serious wrong, or shagging Bobby Brown wrong, UNFORGIVABLE basically. Don't you just hate it when people put sh*t in bold letters for effect but it turns out, IT HAS NONE.

Speaking about sh*t you/I hate- I DESPISE the SABC. Rugby world cup started, guess what, they decide to broadcast the cheaper matches (i.e New Zealand Tonga, Scotland Romania, France Japan yadi yada), but don't bother to show shit we really wanna see (i.e Australia Ireland, New Zealand France, England France...) the nerve of these corrupt fuckers!

International cricket season begins next week, match begins at 18h00 they're starting their broadcast at 20h00. In the words of Paris Hilton What the fuzz? This is all a bunch o' bs (I never actually heard her say this or anything for that matter but it sounds like somethin' she would say).

Aah, guys and girls. Just saw a friend of mine's post on facebook and for the sake of expediency the gist of it was ''some dudes just can't handle rejection''. I think she was talking about a situation where she was walking, dude tried to holler, she hit player with the beatbox coupled with the not-even-if-you-were-the-last-low-pants-wearing-chicco-styled-motherf*cker-on-the-planet look. Dude got chuffed and called her the B word and confirmed his utter lack of smoothness and general inability to speak to the boobed ones.

Now, I don't completely disagree with her assertion that some dudes can't handle rejection, that much is obvious (see OJ, Breezy, the Columbine killers, Beenie Siegel and the crazy lady who cut his husband's johnson off-sidenote, WOMEN.ARE.CRAZY-kinda like those New Zealanders at the rugby world cup that you see before the match starts dressed in straw skirts and Plascon talmbout WHOOOOA!, motherf*cker what? Gimme that stick and sit yo ass down!

Now where was I? Oh yeah some dudes and rejection. Here's the thing, I think that at some level most of us can't handle it. Let me rephrase that, ALL of us cannot handle rejection. Nobody likes to be told their not good enough, AT ANYTHING. Especially if you allowed yourself to think you are. See some people just choose to bury their heads in the sand and not make waves at anything since they suspect they're not good enough and for them, rejection would really confirm that, whether this is objectively true or not does not really matter since subjectively, it's as clear as daylight.

Why then does it seem that some people can handle rejection more than others? Simple- weight, no not that weight. The amount of importance we attach to some things at times at the expense of others, that weight. It's not going to be hard for brothergameless to accept rejection from a woman, a 10 for instance, since in the greater scheme of things, considering my priorities, past success vs failure ratio, realistic expectations (or what I perceive to be realistic), timing, her weave, it is not really that urgent to get that particular woman in that particular space to want to bone me.

It would not be that rejection does not bother gameless, just that in that context it would not be a rejection of me, but of what I represent to that particular woman at that particular time depending on the approach. By the way just on the approach, probably one of the most difficult skills to master. Now if gameless was rejected by a football team, or not even shortlisted at 16 consecutive job interviews, that would go directly to what I think has come to define me- an athlete and a person who is good at what they do. It would really hurt because in my mind that would not be a rejection of me and what I am about but also what I think I'm about. Anyway friends of gameless, any other opinions on this, any anecdotes, anyone get shot for rejecting rakgadi's sister's brother? Hit me up in the comments, gameless, out.

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